Ok i am not talking bout anyone now. My definition of a relationship is simple. I want both of us to be happy. Being happy brings about trust and love. Therefore being happy is the root to making a relationship work. Definitely both parties will not be happy most of the time but once the conflict/unhappiness is resolved, everything shd be back to normal. There is simply no point in harping on the unhappiness. Not value adding at all.



Analogy: A pushed B and B fell onto the floor in a basketball game. B hurt his knee cap. A was remorseful and apologise frantically. Should B just forgive him and stop mentioning it anymore? Or should B be angry and keep bringing up the incident even after many many days? Hello!! A has eyes, he will be reminded of his mistake everytime he meets B and sees the scar on his knees. He will definitely feel bad about it and it was an accident!


Someone made me lose my self confidence by flagging out all my bad points. It was after I left him that I realise I am worth much more. I am never ever going to let anyone make me feel that way anymore. Helping each other change for the better is definitely good but accidentally dashing each other's ego is a big NO NO.


Over the years, I have learnt to take a step back in relationship and look at the bigger picture. If something is not going to work out, i will not force myself upon it anymore. Leave before the feelings get outta hands. Guys are always better when it comes to managing hurt. Girls will just crumble. I am talking bout in general. When things dont work out, i hope i will just smile and tell myself, "there will be a better guy out there for you".


There are certain implied meaning in certain conversations i choose to ignore. Think what u want to and if u think that i am not worth the time, leave.

Your bee-u-ti-ful name here :D